Being in discord with someone is one of the hardest things to go through. We all go through some sort of discord throughout life. Arguments and disagreements make us or break us depending on how we deal with them. Either way, we are bound to encounter discord no matter how much we try to dodge them. But, what are so common methods to deal with discord? How do we normally work through those unwanted circumstances? Do we snap and begin swinging? Do we begin to raise our voices and shout to the top of our lungs? So, how do we deal with strive?What is strive? Strive; to contend in opposition, battle, or any conflict; compete, to struggle vigorously, as in opposition or resistance. How do we handle disagreement?
Everyone has a way to deal with disagreement. There are ethical ways to dealing with conflict to which can make matters subside with desired consequences. Some suggestions to dealing with conflicts are to focus on what you want for that relationship because you avoid negative feelings to build up, and sharing concerns as opinion and not as facts will dismay the idea of accusations.
Matthew 5:40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.
On this sermon of the mount Jesus gives instructions for Christians to deal with conflict. Conflict is a part of every man and women of God, if you do not have any conflicts because you belong to the Lord something is missing. Jesus said in this world you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer I have overcome; he said. Jesus shared the secret towards overcoming conflict. The secret to overcoming conflict is to go the extra mile for the person in conflict, and try not to get into strive (Pr. 3:30). A running result for conflict resolution is to do good to them that offend you. One always ends up ahead in a victorious way when you pay evil with good; it does something to that individual (Ro. 12:20). Kind David understood this idea of conflict resolution, he left it in God’s hands (Ps. 35:1); he told God to take care of those individuals who tried to stir his strive. And, God through the prophet Isaiah assure his people that he would avenge their oppressors or those strive makers (Is. 41:11). As God’s representatives we must not react like the unbelievers who pay evil for evil or a tooth for a tooth, Paul told Timothy that the servant of God must be gentle (2tim. 2:24); like the Son of man (Mt. 12:19) who did not raised his voice in the streets. Many times we found ourselves in strive hurting and being hurt by someone, because we took the wrong measures, but we have the tools to pacify unwanted situations in life and it is through God lead.